Better Together


A friend will help you move. A good friend will help you move a dead body! None of us would be where we are today without the connections of the people around us.

When I consider what has helped me grow as a leader, I always return to the relationships in
my ministry and in my life. The Bible says in Ecclesiastes, “Two people are better off than one,
for they can help each other succeed.”

Knowing this is true, I want to give you three points about relationships that I have found

First, RECOGNIZE that others increase your worth.

Your best qualities will surface in the presence of good people. When you are around people
who are industrious and focused, don’t you find yourself more inclined to work hard? It’s easy
to get excited about upcoming projects when you brainstorm with a creative team and can
visualize where you are going. People around you can bring you up or take you down, so
surround yourself with those who push you to be better.

In your life, it is vital that you have people who recognize your true capabilities and believe in you. Abraham Lincoln said, “I am a success today because I had a friend who believed in me, and I didn’t have the heart to let him down.” The belief that other people have in you may very well be what keeps you moving forward through tough times.

Treasure any friendships that generate energy and enthusiasm towards your dreams and
goals. These people are not easy to find. You may have heard it said, “A true friend is one who
overlooks your failures and tolerates your success!” When you have a friend that encourages
you, that motivates you and that celebrates you – you are truly rich in friendship!

Secondly, REALIZE that relationships provide opportunities.

I think the key indicator for wealth is not good grades, work ethic, or IQ. I believe it's relationships. Ask yourself two questions: How many people do I know, and how much ransom money could I get for each one?

Every incredible opportunity will come into your life disguised as a relationship. You are not an island – your entire world is made up of people and the interactions between them.  And people are the key to your success. I have been introduced to many individuals who have tremendously impacted my life and my ministry – people who I would not have met without an existing relationship with the friend who made that introduction. So, I make every effort to do the same – to connect people with others I know who can help them succeed. Mentors can be the catalyst to success. Find people who can share their wisdom with you and learn from their mistakes and accomplishments. Also, spend some time each week being a mentor. Give back. The time that we sow into helping others always reaps an abundant harvest.

Finally, REVITALIZE your love of the people around you.

Without people, the vision perishes. You will not be able to accomplish your dreams without help. Your company, your family, your life will not move forward without a dedicated team effort, and you are critical to that team. How you choose to treat the people around you will be modeled by all those on your team, and it will become the culture of your workplace and your life. That statement is significant, and worth repeating. Your treatment of others will set the culture of your life. Don’t pretend to love the people around you, then talk about them later and wonder why your life is not consistently growing. But if you love the people who stand beside you, they will follow your example, and it will spread throughout all areas.

You can only reach your goals with the assistance of others. The “greats” learn this fact early and make it a central part of their strategy for success. I encourage you today to look around you. Thank the people who stand with you, who encourage you and who have your back. Make introductions when you can to help out your peers. And genuinely seek to enrich your life by expanding your relationships.

Henry Ford said, “Coming together is a beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success.”

Make the rest of your life the best of your life!

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Determination Week 4 | Determination Is The Key

The key to long term success in any area of your life is determination. Without determination failures become fatal and setbacks become defeat. You have to be determined to be steadfast and to stay in the fight for the long haul!

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Determination Week 3 | When Things Go Wrong

When the going gets tough, the tough get going.

We’ve all heard that quote a thousand times, but do we believe it? When things go wrong do we cower in defeat or rise to fight another day? In life we must have the determination to not quit when things go wrong. That’s what we’re talking about this week on the Success Made Simple Podcast. Click here or the audio player below to listen now!

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The Cream Of The Crop

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The Cream Of The Crop

We all take shots that miss the mark, and sometimes we miss in front of our harshest critics. This is true on the basketball court, and this is true in life, because life isn’t an exact science. Life is a contact sport. But there are certain things we can learn about life by watching a sport like basketball. In both basketball and life, one’s ability to rebound from missed shots and to follow one shot with another shot is vital to success.

In my lifetime, I have watched a lot of sporting events. I’m a guy, so that’s a legal requirement for me. But if I had to summarize what I have learned from watching all those competitive events, it would be the fact that victory is achieved by focusing on three things: attitude, effort, and technique.

It doesn’t matter whether we’re talking about basketball, football, baseball, tennis, bowling, archery, or golf, technique is important. It doesn’t matter whether we’re talking about archery, swimming, boxing, rugby, hockey, soccer, or kickboxing, effort is important. But in every sport, including life, attitude is fundamental. In fact, attitude is the foundation that makes effort worthwhile. It’s the centrifuge that makes technique effective.

Nobody in baseball hustled more than Pete Rose. Nobody in golf practiced more than Jack Nicklaus. Nobody in boxing focused more than Muhammad Ali. And nobody in basketball had more ability than Michael Jordan. But the thing that really set these great athletes apart from their contemporaries was the amazing attitude that drove these men to be their best and to rebound from losses in order to work harder for victories.

Coach Don Meyer, one of the great college basketball coaches, used to say, “Complacency is the forerunner of mediocrity.” And if that is true, then dissatisfaction is the forerunner of greatness. A hunger to do more and to achieve more is a prerequisite for excellence.

So start thinking about a new paradigm for life. The cream of the crop in any sport know how to win. But what is far more important is that they know how to rebound. They know how to rebound from their missed shots on the basketball court and in the real world, and they know how to keep shooting until they finally hit the goal.


Attitude | Another Missed Shot

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Another Missed Shot

If you have ever watched a basketball game, even once in your life, you know that the players miss a lot of shots. Even the best players, when they are being aggressively guarded, fail to score about 50 percent of the time.

Like almost everything else in basketball, this reminds me of life. In life, we don’t plan to miss. Every time we take a “shot,” we hope to score a goal. We hope every relationship works, we hope every investment gives us a return, we hope to make 100 on every test we take in school, and we hope every sales call will end in a written contract. Nobody gets up in the morning, stares in the mirror, and says to himself, “Man, I hope every shot I take today hits the rim and bounces off.”

But life isn’t like that. Life isn’t a game of perfection. Like basketball, life is a game of recovery. You shoot every shot you take with the full confidence and assurance that you are going to hit that shot. But if you happen to miss the shot or if a competitor happens to block your shot, you have to recover the basketball and position yourself to take another shot at the goal. And you have to keep doing this over and over again until you finally score, because nobody hits 100 percent of his shots in a basketball game and nobody hits 100 percent of his shots in life. The winner is the guy who has an attitude that just won’t let him quit until he recovers his missed shots and puts them back up for 2 points.

I read a lot of history. And if there is one common thread in all history books, it’s the fact that history is the story of people. It’s the story of what people do right and the story of what people do wrong. And it’s the story of the resulting consequences of our actions. But the people who really shape history are the people who just keep “pounding the boards.” Like great basketball players, they simply refuse to quit. I have seen a basketball player jump five or six times in an effort to rebound a missed shot. We should do the same. We should have the same kind of confident attitude toward life.

Attitude | The Heart Of A Winner

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My latest book is about basketball. Well, the book is actually about life. But I use the analogy of basketball throughout the book to help the reader grasp the points I try to make. Another Shot is about rebounding from your previous misses and taking another shot at your goals.

Even if you don’t play the game of basketball or follow the game with interest, you can probably name some of the greatest players from the past. Michael Jordan, Magic Johnson, and Kareem Abdul-Jabbar are more than just retired athletes. They are more than Hall of Famers. These men are pop culture icons, celebrities who earned their place in American history by playing the game of basketball with excellence.

But the reason these men became so famous is because they could play basketball at a level you and I can only admire from afar.  And the reason these men played at that level is because they had something that millions among us do not have. I’m not talking about height. I’m not talking about speed. I’m not talking about agility or any of the other physical attributes we usually associate with great basketball players. I’m not talking about any of these tangible qualities, because there are millions of tall people with big hands and muscular bodies. I’m talking about “heart.” I’m talking about “attitude.”

Yes, it takes a lot of skill and talent to play basketball at the professional level, and I have a lot to say in my book about all those necessary ingredients, demonstrating how the right blend of these things can make us successful in life, as well as sports. But beneath it all is attitude, because, without the right attitude, no athlete can survive on the professional level and no athlete can find his or her way into the annals of greatness.

To win on the basketball court, therefore, a player needs a lot of knowledge and a lot of experience. He needs a lot of skills and the ability to know how to use them. But the one overarching quality a player must have to be great at basketball is an attitude that matches the challenge. No person can prevail in athletic competition or in life without the attitude of a “winner” that flows from confidence and a strong determination to do what needs to be done.

Attitude | The Attributes Of A Winner

It's the first week of the new year, and the first week of our 2017 Success Made Simple Coaching Sessions. As your success coach, I know that for you to have your best year yet, the critical key is having the right attitude.

This week, we are kicking the year off with a video coaching session all about the importance of your attitude and how it significantly influences the direction of your life.

I encourage you to watch the video below, then share it with a friend who needs have a great year. I know this will help you start on the right foot.


As a special thanks to you for being a part of our Success Made Simple Coaching Sessions you can now purchase The Another Shot Game Plan for only $97. That's a savings of $200! Just use the promo code ATTITUDE at checkout. Click here or to order.

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Money is not good or evil in itself. But while one man may use money to do evil in the world, another man may use money to do good. Perhaps the greatest power that money possesses, therefore, is the power to reveal the hidden desires of people’s hearts.

For instance, if two brothers should suddenly inherit a million dollars apiece, the first brother might give half his inheritance to charity and use the other half to improve the quality of life for his family. But the other brother might quit his job, divorce his wife, and start living the “high life” with his drinking buddies. Money doesn’t change people; it simply gives people the power to finally become what they have always wanted to be.

Money has a life of its own. It is attracted to people who treat it well, but it flees from people who abuse it. Those who understand money, who appreciate money, and who have a positive and balanced attitude toward money are those who seem to find it and create more of it. They also are the people who discover the most productive ways to hold onto their money and even leave it for subsequent generations. On the other hand, those who acquire money rapidly, without developing the proper mindset toward it, are those who tend to waste it, squander it, or use it for inappropriate purposes. This is why the rich often get richer and the poor often get poorer.

Wealth was created by God (see Genesis 2:11), so it possesses a certain spiritual nature. It flows toward those who use it well, and it flows away from those who use it poorly. It flows toward those who respect it, value it, and learn how to use it to do worthwhile things. But it flows away from those who think it is nothing more than a portal to instant gratification.


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Four Ways Generosity Makes Your Life Richer

Generosity is LIFE. This message is one I have lived by for the past 25 years, and I believe it is the plan for humanity. Life is about getting outside of ourselves and investing in others. Today, I want to briefly share four ways our generosity gives us life. Giving of ourselves, our time and our resources is essential to a life of success and fulfillment. If you are not giving, you are missing out on a vital part of the ultimate life. As we wrap up 2016, I challenge you to examine your actions of generosity and be encouraged that your giving actually makes you richer.

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Do Not Wait

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Every year around this time, I see a lot of people start to put off until next year the changes they need to make in their life. They wrap it up with a nice bow that says "New Year's Resolution", but really, it is simply procrastination.

Don't get me wrong, resolutions aren't a bad thing, but if you're not willing to do something now, you will not be willing to do something then. Here are a few interesting statistics.

·       Every year over 65% of Americans make New Year's resolutions

·       49% of them have infrequent success

·       24% try and fail each year

·       8% are successful in achieving their resolutions

So, what this means is if you are in the roughly 208 million people that set a resolution every year, your odds of being successful are 1 in 13.

I believe more people would be successful if they developed a lifestyle of growth instead of aiming for a “one day, in the future” type of plan. If you commit to growth and to making the changes that present themselves to you on a daily basis, you will be successful.

We all have that thought that we can start later. We can wait for that perfect timing. We can have a new chance if we just hold off until January first. 

I have an important question for you: What if your breakthrough was tomorrow, but you missed it because you waited to start? Some people wait their whole life for a breakthrough or an opportunity, but they miss it because they never actually get off the starting block. Procrastination is the thief of opportunity. We will never see what we need, because we still wait to start.

I encourage you to start today. This is the time to begin making the changes you want to make. The things you need to do are only waiting on you. Your opportunity could be right around the corner. Your breakthrough could be right after the starting point. DO NOT WAIT! The rest of your year CAN BE the best of your year.

Give Thanks

I wanted to take just a moment and say Happy Thanksgiving to each and everyone of you. I hope and pray that you are having an amazing time celebrating and giving thanks today.

As a special holiday treat I have a short encouraging coaching session for you today featuring my son Solomon Martin. One thing we have tried to teach him in life is the power of  thankfulness. Now today, he's helping me teach you.

So I encourage you to take a few minutes and listen to today's special father son interview  on giving thanks. You can click here or click play below.


Do You Seek Wisdom?

In Proverbs it says that wisdom is the principle thing. That means wisdom is the main thing. It is the key to lasting success in life. It also says that a wise man will hear and increase in learning. If you want success in your life, you have to commit to grow, to learn, and to seek wisdom.

Today I wanted to take a few minutes and talk to you about the importance of wisdom and the impact it makes in your life. 

I encourage you to take a few minutes and listen to today's audio blog on Seeking Wisdom. You can click here or click play below.


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The Wisest Man Who Ever Lived

If you Google the phrase “wisest man who ever lived,” you will find that, in the minds of most people, this distinction belongs to Solomon, the legendary king who ruled the ancient nation of Israel about 3,000 years ago. A thinker as well as a leader, an author as well as a ruler, King Solomon was responsible for compiling the biblical book of Proverbs. In that book, he wrote, “A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels” (Proverbs 1:5, KJV).

One of the most famous stories from the life of Solomon was his encounter with God, where the Lord offered Solomon any blessing he desired, including wealth, honor, or power. According to the biblical record (II Chronicles 1:1-12), Solomon chose wisdom. And God was so impressed with this choice that God then rewarded Solomon with all these other blessings, as well.

So Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived, knew that wisdom was the most important quality a person could possess. And according to the notation above from his own writings, he knew that mental growth was a process, not automatic; it was increased incrementally, not gained all at once. Solomon knew that today’s efforts in gathering wisdom and knowledge would bring tomorrow’s successes in life and enterprise, because wisdom is the land under our feet, the solid, immovable rock upon which everything else is built.

People pursue all kinds of things in life. They pursue wealth. They pursue long life. They also pursue lesser prizes, such as pleasure and fame. But the ironic thing about life is that one gains these things, not by pursuing them, but rather by minimizing their importance and pursuing wisdom. Then these other “things” make their way toward the wise individual. Like Solomon, therefore, learn to prefer wisdom. If you do, you “shall attain” all the blessings that life has to offer.


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How To Get Wisdom

Have you ever said to yourself, "I wish I knew then what I know now." For some of us, unfortunately, that seems to be a saying we use all to frequently. The problems we have in life rarely have to do with a lack of 'want to,' they have to do with a lack of 'know how.'

That's where wisdom comes into play.

In the short video below, I am giving you 3 Ways To Get Wisdom. Wisdom will always cost us something, it's up to us to decide what we are willing to pay for it.

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Change Or Be Changed

There is a profound difference between conformity and adaptability. Conformity is the negative quality of blending in and becoming average, refusing to stand out or to capitalize on one’s uniqueness; adaptability is the positive quality of being able to sense the shift in wind direction and proactively adjusting one’s course to take advantage of that wind shift. While conformity is a weakness that is based on fear of rejection, adaptability is a strength that is based on confidence in oneself and in one’s own judgment and abilities.

The real key to adaptability is one’s willingness to change. Great achievers understand that change is inevitable, and they realize that a person’s capacity to accept change is a key element of growth and success. They also realize that the world isn’t standing still, and that they can’t stand still either. They have to be able to change or be swept away in a tidal wave of change as it inevitably sweeps across the landscape.

Your current condition is not permanent. There are “seasons” in life, just as there are seasons in nature. Back in 1965, The Byrds recorded a best-selling song that was written by Pete Seeger and based on the writings of King Solomon in the biblical book of Ecclesiastes. The song, Turn, Turn, Turn, quotes a lot of the observations of Solomon, including his well-known observation that “to every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven” (Ecclesiastes 3:1, KJV). So the smartest man who ever lived, a man of great achievement, observed that the things of life change. They wax and wane. They move. And life seems to come in “seasons.” Solomon was saying, in effect, that happy and successful people need to understand this reality of living in the world, and they need to get with it. To resist change is to resist reality. To resist change is to invite utter disappointment, heartache, and failure.

Nothing in this life will last forever, and I guess this truth can be viewed as both an encouraging and a discouraging reality. While the storms of life are destined to move on, so are the beautiful things of life. But this is the way life is, and successful people recognize this fact, rather than resisting it. The wise people of this world embrace this reality, rather than rejecting it. So the primary truth that I want to convey here is the truth that change is inevitable, but it is possible to be happy in the midst of change and even to utilize change to one’s advantage.

The faster you can turn loose of what used to work and embrace what’s working now, the sooner you can enjoy where you are and where you are going with your life. The faster you can embrace the benefits of change and the positive aspects of growth, the sooner you can begin to enjoy your journey from today to tomorrow. Learn to celebrate change. If you can, you will be healthier, happier, and far more relevant. If you can, you will be able to appreciate the accomplishments you have made to date while anticipating greater achievements in the days ahead.

John F. Kennedy said, “Change is the law of life, and those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.” When change occurs, you have two choices. You can cooperate with change or you can resist it. You can embrace it or you can fight it.  You can learn to recognize the benefits of change and view change as an opportunity for growth and new experiences, or you can denounce change as the work of the devil and dig your heels in as you rapidly become the latest species of dinosaur to become extinct. The choice is yours. But people of greatness have learned to embrace change wholeheartedly. In fact, they see change as an ally, not a foe. They view it as a friend, not an enemy. They look at change through their paradigm of optimism and see it as a catalyst for growth and as a launching pad for greater success. They don’t see it as a threat or a challenge; they view it as a healthy opportunity to go where they’ve never been before.

Steve Jobs didn’t become one of the world’s great entrepreneurs by resisting change. In fact, he was one of the driving forces of change in recent times. History will attribute to him many of the great technological changes of the 20th and 21st centuries. Steve Jobs believed that change was not an optional thing. We cannot take a vote to decide as a society whether we want change, and we cannot opt out of change as individuals. Change is coming to our world each and every day, typically in small, bite-sized pieces. Nevertheless, it is coming, and it is coming steadily and persistently through technology and every other imaginable means.

The world is changing and will continue to change faster than ever. But as you grow older and wiser, you can either live a life of frustration and mediocrity by resisting those changes that are taking place all around you. Or you can embrace the reality of change and seize every positive change in your world as an opportunity to advance your own life and dreams. Don’t become a Model T at the Indianapolis 500. The sheer speed of worldwide innovation will literally blow you off the track if you allow it to pass you by. It will leave you in the dust of antiquity. But if you will make up your mind that change can be a positive thing for you and your world, you can capitalize upon it and allow it to become your springboard to a greater and more fulfilling life.



Why Is Adaptability Important? | Audio Blog

This week's blog is a quick audio teaching about The Importance Of Adaptability. If you can't be adaptable, you can't be great. The greats understand the importance of adaptability and change. They not only embrace it, they chase it. Take a few minutes and click play below to hear this week's teaching on Adaptability.



The Passing Of Lonesome George

Some time ago, I read a story in the newspaper, announcing the sudden death of Lonesome George. In case you haven’t heard of Lonesome George, he was actually quite famous. He was a giant tortoise from the Galapagos Islands, the last known representative of his species. But Lonesome George unexpectedly died at the young age of 100, marking the extinction of yet another species of exotic wildlife.

Leon C. Megginson, a noted writer of business management books, once noted, “It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but rather the one most adaptable to change.” And scientists are now admitting that the likely cause for the extinction of the giant Galapagos tortoise was its inability to adapt to a changing environment.

Between 1600 and 1900, hunters killed approximately 100,000 of these tortoises. In more recent years, livestock on the islands cut into the tortoises’ food supply, harmed their eggs, and destroyed their habitat. But while many species of animals, like the giant tortoise, must be protected against changes in their environment in order to survive, others species of animals have adapted well to changing circumstances, actually flourishing when man’s presence among them becomes more intrusive.

Only the creator knows how many species have become extinct since the dawn of history. But one thing is for sure: In virtually every situation where a particular species has perished, the extinction of that species can be directly attributed to its inability to adapt. But while the giant Galapagos turtle and the Dodo bird became victims of the unstoppable forces of change, cockroaches and most birds have learned to take advantage of the changes.

So learn a lesson from Mother Nature. Learn that adaptation is synonymous with survival and that the inability to change is synonymous with extinction.

The key to adaptability is one’s willingness to change. The “greats” understand that change is inevitable, and they realize that a person’s capacity to accept change is a key ingredient for growth and success. They also realize that the world isn’t standing still, and that they can’t stand still either. They have to be able to change or be swept away in a tidal wave as change inevitably sweeps across the landscape.

The ability to change, the ability to adapt, is one of the truly remarkable qualities in the life of a successful individual. The person who cannot change is the person who cannot grow, but the person who is able to sense the winds of change and adjust his sails accordingly is the person who will get to the shore faster and with less effort. Be willing to change, not in your core values, but in your tactics and in the execution of your plans.

Survival depends on your ability to adapt. The same truth that applies in the jungles of the Galapagos Islands also applies in the human jungle.






Michael and Chris were well-behaved boys who grew up in Richmond, California, in the 1960s. They got good grades. They stayed out of trouble. They obeyed their parents. But their parents were poor, so Michael and Chris eventually started stealing food, because they were hungry. They would take sandwiches, shoplift cookies, and even steal money from their parents to buy food.

When Michael and Chris grew older, however, they changed schools. Then, at the conclusion of the boys’ freshman year of high school, something happened that took them in opposite directions. Chris got his end-of-the-year report card and discovered that he had received three F’s, the maximum allowed over the 4-year program. So Chris decided he wanted to turn his life around, and he made up his mind to change some things.

Michael also made a key decision at this time. He decided to keep walking the path he was walking. So while Chris finished high school and enrolled in college, Michael joined the Army. And while Chris went on to law school, Michael left the military and returned to his neighborhood to hang out in the streets with his old friends. While Chris worked hard, eventually becoming the deputy district attorney for Los Angeles County, Michael started hustling to earn money to buy drugs.

Eventually, Chris Darden became one of the lead prosecutors in the O.J. Simpson murder trial. Eventually, Michael Darden died of AIDS at the age of 42. A story of both triumph and tragedy, this true account of the divergent lives of two brothers enables us to see that who we are and what we become is not so much a matter of circumstance as it is a matter of choice. The choices one makes will determine who he becomes, and the changes he either makes or refuses to make will determine the course he walks in life and the epitaph that will be written on his tombstone.

There are two lessons we can learn from the true story of Michael and Chris Darden. First, we can learn that it is usually not a good thing to follow the crowd. Wherever you find a crowd, you will find mediocrity and conformity. People are funny creatures. When we are alone, we tend to treat people with respect, show courtesy, and apply wisdom to our choices and our actions. But when we are with the crowd we tend to seek approval, and this usually means that we try to avoid standing out or challenging the behavior of others by demonstrating better behavior.

We are social creatures, and the need for acceptance and approval is stronger in our lives than we realize. It also is stronger than we will admit. So it takes a truly daring individual to defy his peers in order to pursue something better. The truth of the matter is that others don’t want you to improve. Others don’t want you to grow. In both subtle and not-so-subtle ways, your friends will do everything in their power to keep you where you are. As long as everyone in the group is equal, everyone in the group is happy. But the minute that a member of the group grabs hold of a rung on the ladder and starts pulling himself up to a higher place, the other members of the group will start criticizing him and pulling him back down to their level.

So you can learn from these two brothers that greatness is pursued by traveling the road less traveled. But you also can learn that your destiny lies in your own hands. Many people blame their circumstances, their environment, their parents, and their status in life for their plight in life. But the truth is that you can become anything you want to be if you are willing to change yourself. And if you can change yourself, you can change your circumstances.