Success Deconstructed


Have you noticed the trend in deconstructed food lately? It is…interesting, to say the least! (Google ‘deconstructed food,’ if you have missed out so far.) Some of you may find this idea rather fun, but I must say that if I order a burger or sushi or a dessert, I’d like it to come fully constructed, completely put together, and ready to eat!

What does it mean to ‘deconstruct’ something, anyway? Basically, it is to take it apart and look at the pieces and parts that make up the whole. So, while I enjoy an apple pie, all put together and topped with ice cream, sometimes I do find it enlightening to look at the various ingredients or the components of an idea. Today, I’d like to look at SUCCESS and let’s deconstruct this idea for a few minutes. When we do, I believe we will have a better understanding of what makes up success and we will know what success looks like to us individually.

What is success?  We hear that word all the time. Books have been written about it in every generation.  Other people have it.  We want it.  But what is it? 

I recently conducted a quick poll in my office to see what my team thought about the definition of success.  I asked them, to give me three indicators of success.  If they had these things in their life, they would know they were successful.  The responses were intriguing, because five themes seemed to be most common.  According to my latest poll, the biggest indicators of success are these:

  • Healthy relationships
  • Legacy
  • Money
  • Purpose
  • Happiness

Although you may have other items to add to this list, I think this is a good start.  The question now becomes, how do you achieve these things?  Where do you start with developing healthy relationships, establishing a positive legacy, creating wealth, fulfilling a purpose and becoming happy? 

Success needs to be simple.  That does not mean it is easy.  But the concepts are not a mystery and they are achievable.  You must first develop a mindset and hone a skill set to position yourself where you are able to recognize and to take advantage of every opportunity. 

Becoming a success is very intentional.  It requires discipline and perseverance and the intentional pursuit of the foundational qualities which set great achievers apart.  Greatness is not based on performance, but rather on character.  It is not what a person does, but rather what a person is and how that person influences the people around him. 

A successful person is anyone who is pursuing a predetermined, worthwhile goal and doing a good job at it because that is the goal he has deliberately set in his sights. But sadly, only about 4 in every 100 people will ever set a goal for their lives and then work intentionally toward it. And they will fail to do this because they are more interested in popularity than success. They are more interested in being accepted than being right. They want to be part of the flock instead of being ahead of the flock, though they would never admit it. They want to play it safe and not take the risks associated with sticking out from the crowd.

This desire to fit in causes people to give up on their dreams and to abandon the goals they have had since childhood. They learn quickly how to think like the people around them and how to settle for the lifestyle and lack of significance that others have gradually adopted. They learn to complain and blame. They learn to envy and compare. But they rarely stop to think that they have the power at any point in their lives to turn things around and to head in a different direction in spite of what other people think and in spite of what other people are doing. They rarely stop to think that they hold the reins of their own lives and that they write the scripts of their own personal history.

If you want to be great, you have to stop being average. If you want to be uncommon, you have to stop being common. If you want to go places where few people have gone, you have to stop following the herd to the places in life that they frequent. If you want to be different, you have to think differently.

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It All Starts In Your Head

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God gave you two ends, one to sit on and one to think with. Success depends on which one you use.  Heads you win, tails you lose. If you want to be a winner, get off your tail and use your head.

I would like to help you change your thinking today. If we can change your thinking, we can change your life. That’s what the Success Made Simple podcast is about - teaching you secrets and principles that will help you to win in life.  Believe you can and you can. Not only you CAN, but you WILL. If you listen to what I’m telling you -  the priceless wisdom, values, understanding, and teaching that I’m going to share with you - I believe you’ll develop the mindset of a winner. You’ll learn how to mind your head, because successful people think differently than unsuccessful people.

Growing up I used to think that if you were wealthy, you were selfish. I had to change the way I thought about things, the way I looked at things, and that’s what I want to help you do. I believe if you think like winners, act like winners act, do what winners do, you can be a winner.

I want to tell you about minding your head and how winners are different from the crowd. All year we’ve been talking about developing your mindset and how to develop the right kind of thinking.

Winners are different from the crowd. They don’t just survive their failures, they refuse to place the blame on others. They see possibilities and they know that all things are possible.

This doesn’t mean that they never make mistakes - some of the most wealthy and successful people have made some of the greatest failures. In fact, most successful people have a few failures on their resumes. But, failure in life can be the greatest teacher

Winners are those who learn from their mistakes, but never quit. They let the obstacles in life propel them, not steal their dreams. Winning begins between your ears. 

Our goal is to develop a new mentality, a new picture of ourselves, our life, our family, our business, and our finances. Begin to see it differently than you see it right now.

Most of us have been conditioned to blame something outside of ourselves for the parts of our life we don’t like, but if you want to be successful, if you want to be wealthy, if you want to have healthy relationships, if you want to be fulfilled, you’re going to have to take 100% responsibility for everything you’ve experienced in your life. That includes the level of achievement you’ve reached and the results that you’ve produced. The quality of your relationships, the state of your health, your physical fitness, income, debt, feelings... everything! We blame our parents, bosses, friends, media, coworkers, spouse... we can blame everything on everyone. We never look at where the problem really is and that is ourselves, and our own thinking.

If you want to create the life of your dreams, you’re going to have to take responsibility for where you are and what you’re thinking. That means giving up your excuses and your victim stories, all the reasons why you haven’t and why you can’t. Until now.

Make a decision today, right now! Say out loud,

“I am deciding to change the way I look and think about things!”

“I am going to develop the mindset of a winner!”

“ I am going to get the mentality!”

“ I am going to mind my head!”

YOU already have the ability and the power to make it happen, SO DO IT!

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The Magic Words

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I speak several languages…American, English, Canadian, some Australian…but whenever I am
visiting a non-English speaking country, there is one phrase that I always learn…THANK YOU!
Merci, Gracias, Arigato, Danke, Tiramisu!

I have discovered that this one expression alone will work wonders. It will open doors. It will
establish relationships. It will be the starter thread that creates a blanket of affection and trust. Learn the power of the word THANKS.

Rudyard Kipling was one of those authors who was very successful in his lifetime. A
British newspaper criticized him, ridiculed him and called him a mercenary. They said,
“He is now writing just for the money. One word of Kipling today is worth a hundred

Shortly after the release of the unkind article, a reporter approached Kipling at a
gathering and said, “So you’re worth a hundred dollars a word? Here’s a hundred…give
me a word.” Then he handed him a paper and pencil.

Kipling took the hundred, put it in his pocket and he wrote one word on the

Yes, if a criticism of unkindness causes you to slip, stumble, and slide into discouragement, then lift your mood back up by giving thanks and find somewhere to show appreciation. You cannot control the actions of other people, but you can control your reaction. If we lose control of our reactions, the negative emotion of discouragement can quickly follow a disappointment.

You will find that giving a genuine Thank You to someone will take the focus off of yourself.
When you focus on other people, and intentionally show appreciation for them, your own
problems will become less difficult and less overwhelming.

We need to develop the daily habit of exercising the Attitude of Gratitude.

Be thankful to God always for everything. I’m 47 years old, and it still shocks me to say that I
have never had anything happen in my life, including tragedies and near disasters, that did not turn out to be blessings in disguise. I reached a point many years ago where I began to
impulsively, and I think very intelligently, to start my prayers with simple thanksgiving. Be
thankful for all things.

  • Thank you God that they’ve discovered it early.
  • Thank you that we’re living in a time where there are all kinds of potential
  • treatments.
  • Thank you that my friend has the faith to carry him through.
  • Thank you for a country of opportunity
  • Thank you for what I learned yesterday

I want to look at the Attitude of Gratitude from two perspectives – Outward Expression and
Inward Thanksgiving.

  • What everyone sees – which is showing appreciation to others
  • What we know within ourselves - that we are blessed.

First, the Outward Expression – how do we exercise the Attitude of Gratitude.
Gratitude means…the quality or feeling of being grateful or thankful.

Why show gratitude? Is it just the right thing to do, or does it have some other value? Demonstrating sincere gratitude takes energy and thought, and having an attitude of gratitude requires the conscious effort of being thankful. So how can practicing gratitude have a permanent effect on you and those around you? Let’s explore that a bit more…

When someone expresses thankfulness, it not only impacts the receiver, but it also has benefits for the one giving thanks. Here’s a few of the benefits:

  • Recognizing the blessings in your life and acting upon them regularly increases your
  • awareness and appreciation.
  • Sharing your gratitude improves your quality of life because it can only result in positive
  • emotions.
  • Learning to appreciate what you have also makes life more valuable and meaningful.

Each day we’re given a new chance to make a difference in the world. By maintaining an
attitude of gratitude with each new day, you develop the habit of appreciating what you have
instead of dwelling on what you don’t have. You’ll have more peace and joy because your outlook begins on a positive note. You’ll also handle challenges differently if you begin with an
appreciative mindset.

Next week we will continue exploring the attitude of gratitude and will talk about how to model this in our lives. I’ll give you a hint - saying ‘thank you’ is a great start, but there is a lot more to a lifestyle of gratefulness. I’m looking forward to sharing more with you next week, right here on  the blog.

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Time Flies And You Are The Pilot


This past week, all around the world we paused to pay tribute to the life of Billy Graham, considered by many to be the most influential preacher of the 20th century. Billy Graham was a wise and dedicated man who was solely committed to spreading the gospel across the globe. He has been quoted often, and in many situations, and today, I’d like to once again use Billy Graham’s words as we discuss our Mindset and how we view the ‘every days’ of life. Life is not just about the ‘big’ things, although those are the most visible. Rather, it is the ‘every days’ that make us who we are, so that when those large, defining situations arise, we are ready to handle them because we have prepared every day.

Billy Graham said this. ”The legacy we leave is not just in our possessions, but in the quality of our lives. The greatest waste in all of our earth, which cannot be recycled or reclaimed, is our waste of the time that God has given us each day.”

Think about that. Time is something we can never get back. Are you making the most of your time each day? Are you preparing each day for your life purpose? Are you working toward your goals each day? Unless your MINDSET is that each and every day matters, you will never reach your full potential.

So, how do you make the most of your day? You stop wasting time, you organize, and you put a plan in place to maximize your minutes. I want to give you 7 tips on how to do this so your days can be more productive and you will have time to spend on the important things in life.

Benjamin Franklin summed it up when he said, “Doest thou love life?  Then do not squander time, for that is the stuff life is made of.”  With hectic schedules and ever increasing workloads, time is an enemy rather than an ally for too many professionals.

Here are 7 tips to make the most of your time:

1.     Don’t let interruptions get the best of you.
You may not be able to stop every interruption that comes your way, but you can train your mind to get back at the task as soon as the interruption is over. 

2.     Focus on being on time.
You irritate more people than you realize if you have a problem with tardiness.  Besides, there are probably no more creative excuses as to why you are late.

3.      Set aside 15 minutes a day to plan.
The time you spend planning actually saves you time in working.  When you take just 15 minutes a day to set your course, you will find you can achieve a lot more. 

4.      Try to develop a routine in life.
Identify a place to put your car keys every time you come home from work.  Keep all office supplies in a particular drawer.  Return your phone calls at a certain time each day.  Routines are freeing rather than confining because they relieve stress and cut down on wasted time!

5.     Cut back your socializing time at work.
Not only does socializing limit the amount of work you get done, but also the time of other members of your team.  Don’t force your co-workers to work late to make up for lost time that occurred because of you.

6.      Clean up your office clutter and throw useless things out.
When you leave your desk organized at the end of the day, you will be better organized for a fresh start the next morning.  Try to deal with incoming mail, e-mails, memos, phone calls and paperwork at a certain time each day, giving yourself a certain amount of time to process it, file it, or throw it out.  

7.      Simplify the mundane chores.
You hate doing them, but if you don’t stay on top of things like filing, calls, e-mails, etc., you will eventually be overwhelmed by them. 

Perhaps you can use all seven of these – or maybe one or two, but either way, if you want to be a success in life, you must cultivate a mindset that time is critical and you must develop ways to make the most of your time.

Below is one of my favorite quotes from Billy Graham, which I believe perfectly outlines a life plan that will create a legacy:

“Do all the good you can,
By all the means you can,
In all the ways you can,
In all the places you can,
At all the times you can,
To all the people you can,
As long as ever you can.”

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Why Winners Win

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For the past week and a half - all around the world - we have been united in watching the 2018

Olympics. We are amazed by the ski jumping. We are thrilled with the figure skaters, and we cheer for the bobsled teams. We collectively celebrate the almost 3,000 athletes competing in the Winter Games, and we are always in awe at the incredible feats they can accomplish.

Did you ever want to be an Olympian? Did you dream of what you would do with the whole world watching? What does it take to be at that level of achievement?

I believe that to be a championship Olympian, it takes many of the same traits that are required to be a successful entrepreneur, or a winning coach, or a great business leader. I am confident that success has common traits and actions. I am certain that we, too, can unlock these behaviors and put them into practice in our own lives. But what are the qualities? How can we get them?

Have you ever thought about this? Two people can grow up in the same town, attend the same schools, hold the same social status, have parents with very similar incomes, beliefs, and family values, yet one individual will excel far beyond the level of his peer. One will succeed; one will settle. One will rise, one will remain. One will control; one will conform. What is the difference? What makes one an outstanding and successful business leader and the other an average employee?

I believe there are many traits that make a person great, and in this list of many there are three that rise to the top. These three elements must in place before all the hard work, the tenacity, the determination, and the consistent and relentless drive toward the goal can be effective. These three are all behaviors that are in your mind. I constantly say this, and I am convinced that it is at the core of success for each of us: YOU MINDSET MATTERS. In fact, your mindset matters so much that it controls your actions. It controls your outlook, and it controls who you become. Great leaders and achievers have these three traits, and if you master them as well, they will set you apart and put you on the road of accomplishment and success.

1. The achiever, the great business leader, the championship athlete will BELIEVE. He believes in his mission, he believes in his plans, and most of all, he believes in himself. Throughout history, the people who have achieved success are the people who have been sustained by a strong, unshakable belief in themselves. They believed in their own talents and abilities. They believed in what they felt called to do, and these great men and women believed in themselves, even though others around them opposed them or failed to support them. Their MINDSET was the greatest factor in determining their outcome.

Each person has the power to choose what he will believe about his own potential and what he will think about his own life. Beliefs shape attitude, and one’s attitude determines whether or not life is seen as an ongoing series of obstacles or opportunities. The greats choose to believe in themselves and choose to have a positive mindset, They anticipate and seek out challenges, with the confidence and unwavering belief that they have the ability to win.

2. The achiever, the great business leader, the outstanding entrepreneur will THINK big. He has the consistent habit of imagining a solution that has not been tried. He devises an explanation that has not been proven. He creates a result that goes against conventional thinking. He has the ability to dream and to move away from the expected into the realm of experiment and discovery. Whether this is a new battlefield tactic, a medical breakthrough, or a fresh marketing strategy, the great leader is open to change and is willing to challenge what currently exists. This opens the door for the potential of a revolutionary discovery. Great achievers are people of great IMAGINATION. They are pioneers, and they dare to dream. Discoveries and inventions are made because people dare to dream and intentionally think bigger than their current surroundings.

3. The great achiever, the outstanding teacher, the successful leader will LOOK intently and with total focus. They have complete attentiveness on the results they are working to achieve. Focus equals direction. A person with driving focus is able to let go of everything that does not move him toward his goal. He can say ‘no’ to extraneous distractions and he does not let the opinions of those around him deter him from his purpose.

The average person tends to be busy rather than effective and stretched to the limits rather than focused. Great leaders have extraordinary FOCUS. They possess a clearly identified goal, and they move toward that objective with single-mindedness and intense concentration.

So, what is the difference in the two people from the same town and same background? One chose to discover the characteristics of greatness, to develop and practice them, and make them part of his DNA. The other chose to be a spectator in the game of life.

Great achievers, just like great Olympians, believe in themselves. They think big, and they look with focus. When their mindset is right, they are positioned to move forward, to do what they say, and stand with courage. These traits and actions are neither acquired nor accomplished by accident. They are the product of diligent effort and concentrated purpose. Winning is intentional. Success is earned. And great achievers are marked by their mindset before their actions.

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